It’s that time of the year. 2017 New Year’s resolutions have already turned into 2018 hopes and dreams.
Most people have fallen off the band wagon studies show. The goals that were set a month ago: getting healthy, losing weight, staying fit, increasing your finances, strengthening your marriage, and getting out of debt, now seem impossible to overcome. The idea of letting go of bad habits has only slowly dripped back into your life like a leaky faucet you keep telling yourself needs to be fixed, but never seem to get around to. Problems are in you, around you, on top of you. With no end in sight.
To keep yourself motivated every day is exhausting. You’re tired. Desperate. You’re not talented and gifted like your friends. Success has never come easy for you; why would it now? Life has no answers to your problems.
Do you know someone who might feel like this?
Do YOU feel like this? If so, congratulations. Because I wrote this blog for you. Read on.
Four years ago, there was a couple I once knew who were real life pioneers. Turned their life from rags to riches, the old fashion way. Sleeves rolled up, they went to work. Blazed new trails. Did things most would not do, and experienced things most never will. After 16 years of trail blazing, if happiness was a destination, they landed it. These grassroots pioneers were happily married. Still in love after 16 years of marriage. Had 3 children who were the center of their life. Amazing careers. Giving back. Freedom. Checked off most of their bucket list goals. Most people don’t even reach a few things on their bucket list. Not these pioneers.They were already onto the second bucket list in life. Big. Bold. Dreams. Life was just beginning. It wasn’t money that was their success. It was their love. Love of faith. Love of family. Love of adventure.
And then, in one moment, everything stopped. This amazing pioneer, a best friend to many, business partner, loyal husband, incredible father, had a trauma happen during a minor surgery. A sleeping giant of a disease awakened within him.
Four years. Multiple surgeries. Debilitating symptoms. Everything he once did, he can no longer do. Life goes on for the world, while he struggles to get through the day. This great pioneer went from bold daring dreams and traveling the world, to traveling for a medical miracle. I know this story intimately.
For it is our story….
I do not for one second discredit all the heartache, hardship, and illness that others are going through. Not one bit. Our story isn’t any harder than any of your stories. I’m simply sharing our story.
Four years hearing “I’m so sorry this happened to you, we don’t know how to fix you. Not sure what is wrong with you. This happens only to 1 %. You don’t even match the 1 % category! This is so rare.”
Hearing the 1% made my skin crawl.
Door after door slammed in our faces in the medical community. Medical bills. Lost income. Exhausting our entire insurance network. No diagnosis. You know your life is twisted when you pray every day for a medical diagnosis. Something. Anything. Because then you could finally move forward to try and overcome it.Our ultimate life, went down the ultimate toilet. Talk about a massive pity pool of grief, sorrow, anger, and frustration. I would be a liar if I didn’t admit this. Then, it was on this very journey that revelation was made.
Once a pioneer, always a pioneer.
Four long grueling years of this new culture. A new trail has been blazed. Having the humbling privilege of sitting in countless waiting rooms, hospitals, and clinics, it was the conversations I encountered that became life changing. I heard heartbreaking story after story. Accidents, traumatic brain injuries, rare diseases, unknown diseases, no diagnosis, soldiers’ sacrifice in the line of duty, the list goes on and on.
They were a father, mother, son, daughter, brother, sister, wife, husband. Many faced great odds against them. Having to relearn how to walk, talk, see, and do daily functions again. Dealing with pain 24/7. Grown strong men that were in combat or like my husband, full of life, now humbled on almost every level.
After listening to countless stories, I began taking notebooks full of notes. Each story was made up of horrific challenges. Financially, physically, and emotionally draining. Pure exhaustion. Great loss. Pain. Suffering beyond measure. I began to see common denominators in all the people we met in this four-year journey.In the medical field, this looked like the ultimate misfit club.
In the words I had written, an integrated pattern of human knowledge and belief unfolded. When I peeled back the layers, I discovered something remarkable.
These misfit patients were Pioneers blazing new trails.
But it was what was the Spirit of the Pioneer that spoke to me the most. Within this most prestigious culture, were individuals, who shared the same attitude, values, and goals. Connecting the dots in their stories created a resume with an impressive prerequisite for these remarkable individuals.
Faith. The spirit of the pioneer, has something called blind faith. It kicks in during the toughest of times, allowing them to believe through the answerless abyss.
Humility. Great loss. Devastation. Stripped to the core. On-their-knees, kind of humbling. From this view, they were blessed with a new outlook for they could only look up.
Laughter. Through the humility, the sound of laughter was inevitable. The joyful sound followed wherever they went. Smiling through the pain. Finding joy- even in the eye of the storm.
Determination. When they were told they could NEVER do something again, they ignored it.
Miracles. A pioneer doesn’t believe in a single miracle. They believed every day of every moment IS a miracle. Life is a multitude of miracles.
Relentless. They stand up. Every day. Squashed the victim mentality of feeling sorry for themselves. Instead, they search outside their comfort zone, outside the network for an answer. They searched on a global level for new opportunities to open, and didn’t stop till they blazed a new trail.
Forgiveness. They learned to let go of anger and bitterness. Forgive and accept is a part of their DNA.
Love. A love so rich lies within, a level beyond what fairy tales are made of. The greatest gift to a pioneer isn’t riches, fame, or money. It is LOVE.
No Excuses. They cut the excuse habit chain. No whining is a motto they live by.
Commitment. They are simply committed to never giving up. Committed to making no excuses.
Dream. They dream fearlessly. Anything and everything is possible. New trails. New discoveries. Big. Bold. Abundant visions.
What does this mean for you?
If you feel you’re surrounded by problems and there’s no end in sight, you have the same choice. You can choose to be bitter. Tread forever in your pity pool. Focus on what you cannot control. Or, you can stop whining and making excuses. Ditch the pity party. Figure out what is holding back and throw it away.
Don’t let the dreams you had for 2017 slip away. Choose what you can control – your thoughts, your attitude – and start believing in something bigger than you. You will never know who you are, or what you are capable of until you step outside of your comfort Zone.
Don’t be afraid to blaze a new trail.
It’s what Pioneers do.